Gauging Consent

Before you have sex, ask yourself:

• Have I expressed what I want?
• Do I know what my partner wants? Am I certain that consent has been given?
• Is my potential partner sober enough to decide whether or not to have sex?
• Am I sober enough to know that I have correctly gauged consent?

RED:

Signs You Should Stop Immediately

• You are too intoxicated to gauge or give consent.

• Your partner is asleep or passed out.

• You hope your partner will say nothing and go with the flow.

• You intend to have sex by any means necessary.

YELLOW:

Signs You Should Pause and Talk

• You are not sure what the other person wants.

• You feel like you are getting mixed signals.

• You have not talked about what you want to do.

• You assume that you will do the same thing as before.

• Your partner stops or is not responsive.

   

GREEN:

Keep Communicating

• • Partners come to a mutual decision about how far to go.

  • Partners clearly express their comfort with the situation.

  • You feel comfortable and safe stopping at any time.

  • Partners are excited.