Rape Language

Through metaphors, common English phrases contribute to and perpetuate attitudes that condone or trivialize rape. The metaphors which we commonly use to talk about sex often create or legitimize attitudes which connect sex with violence, sex with degradation, and sex with dominance. (The following list is an incomplete adaptation from Timothy Beneke's  "Men on Rape.")

SEX IS A SPORT:

I hope I score tonight.

I struck out with him/her.

I got to second base.

She/he made a pass.

He/she is playing the field.

SEX IS ACHIEVEMENT:

I'd like to make it with him/her.

He/She is successful with men/women.

I went all the way with her/him.

I didn't get anywhere with him/her.

SEX IS A GAME:

If you play your cards right, you'll score.

Your best bet is to go easy or you'll strike out.

SEX IS PERFORMANCE:

You were great last night.

I got rave reviews in bed.

He/she is good in bed.

SEX IS WAR:

He/she got shot down.

She/he was hitting on him.

SEX IS BEING SERVICED:

She/he wouldn't put out.

He/she wouldn't do it for me.

SEX IS A COMMODITY:

I never had to pay for it.

I couldn't get any.

Is he/she available?

SEX IS A POSSESSION:

I'd like to have her/him.

I bet I could get him/her.

You're going to lose her/him.

I'd like a piece of that.

SEX IS A  CONQUEST:

She/he gave it up.

A SEXUALLY ACTIVE WOMAN IS BAD:

What a slut.

She's a little tramp.

A SEXUALLY ACTIVE MAN IS GOOD

He is a stud.

He's a player.

Words the describe sex also describe ways of hurting or taking advantage of:

Screw, Nail, Fuck, hit