Gauging Consent
Before you have sex, ask yourself:
- Have I expressed what I want?
- Do I know what my partner wants? Am I certain that consent has been given?
- Is my potential partner sober enough to decide whether or not to have sex?
- Am I sober enough to know that I have correctly gauged consent?
RED:
Signs You Should Stop Immediately
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You are too intoxicated to gauge or give consent.
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Your partner is asleep or passed out.
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You hope your partner will say nothing and go with the flow.
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You intend to have sex by any means necessary.
YELLOW:
Signs You Should Pause and Talk
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You are not sure what the other person wants.
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You feel like you are getting mixed signals.
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You have not talked about what you want to do.
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You assume that you will do the same thing as before.
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Your partner stops or is not responsive.
GREEN:
Keep Communicating
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Partners come to a mutual decision about how far to go.
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Partners clearly express their comfort with the situation.
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You feel comfortable and safe stopping at any time.
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Partners are excited.
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